For some reason, in our popular western culture, so many of us prepare ourselves for the worst. Even in little ways, like:

You think you'll get the job, but you "don't want to jinx it." Stuff like that.

And in today's world climate it's probably happening more.

But the truth is -- this kind of thinking and internal activity doesn't feel good, it doesn't help you prosper as an individual, in relationships, or in your work -- because you're too busy worrying. And worrying is so self-conscious and consuming.

But how do you get out when you're stuck on a negative spin?

For starters, let's turn some of our Eeyorean "What Ifs" on their heads and happy-fy them.

If the idea scares you -- because it happens -- make yourself a deal: try it for a week, a month, as long as you can, and then give yourself the option of returning to old worries. You may find it harder and less interesting to return to old ways--at least with your former vengeance.

So, let's get started.

1. Start with the big fat downer but totally human What If:

• What if on the walk to coffee a bus hits me and ...
• What if my boss is in a bad mood, hates my idea and fires me (or worse, publically humiliates me)?
• What if my teenager runs away to join a sex-and-drug cult and steals all my Rolling Stones records?
• What if [fill in your bad-case scenario here]?

2. Replace your favorite negative What If with kinder, friendlier, more creative and adventurous ones, eg:

• What if I could flap my arms and fly, where would I go?
• What if I go for it, believe in myself and present my ideas to the boss, what if she likes them--what if she works with me to make it better?!
• What if I ask my kid to go for a walk with me and see how many roses we could smell?
• What if I prepare for success and creating wonderful experiences for myself and others -- rather than protect myself by preparing for disappointment and tragic life consequenes?

Which What Ifs give you a lift, a kick to your step, help you sleep better, and motivate you more?

Which ones have a better chance of happening?

Which ones are dramatic boogie men?

Which ones are benevolent spirit-builders?

What if???